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In Fix Your Marriage Without Counseling: A Practical Method Men Will Appreciate, couples therapist Ziba Graham Jr. shares the strategies that have dramatically improved his clients’ lives, giving you the tools you need to create genuine, lasting change. You’ll learn how to:

  • Communicate effectively

  • Avoid laying blame

  • Help improve your partner’s behavior without nagging

  • Leave the past in the past

Using this method will resolve conflicts quickly and effectively in usually three to four guided conversations. By simply answering questions, you will be empowered to discover your own solutions. Most importantly, the problem or conflict is never identified, allowing you to focus on getting back to a joy-filled marriage.

Insightful and thought-provoking, Fix Your Marriage Without Counseling is a fantastic resource for anyone who’d rather seek solutions than wallow in their problems.

About the Author

Ziba Graham Jr. is a licensed clinical social worker who has helped hundreds of couples improve the quality of their marriages. He has given multiple presentations on marriage topics for many years and has seen first-hand the effectiveness of his techniques. His goal is to help as many people as possible have better marriages, reduce the divorce rate, and provide children with more secure and stable homes.

Ziba Graham Jr. has an MBA from Indiana University, a master’s in social work from the University of Louisville, and an associate degree and substance abuse certificate from Vincennes University. In addition to writing numerous articles on relationships, he is the author of two previous books, Better than a Stick in the Eye and God, Church, Life, and Other Essays. Before his retirement, he was a marriage and family counselor in Evansville, Indiana. Mr. Graham currently spends winters in Tucson, Arizona, and summers in Conway, Michigan. He is married with three grown children and six grandchildren.

  • “We saw positive results right away!”

    Mike G.

  • “We really appreciated getting professional help without having to go to a counselor.”

    Erin K.

  • “This is so different than traditional marriage counseling. What a breath of fresh air!”

    Kathryn B.

  • “This method takes all of the scariness out of marriage counseling.”

    Michael T.

  • “There is so much wisdom in this way of helping couples. I highly recommend the book!”

    Daniel G.

  • “The book’s greatest asset is its positive approach to solving problems. The author gives couples real insight to creating strong, long lasting, loving relationships.”

    Bonnie and Hil N.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • Most couples start seeing results right away. Couples continue to enjoy improvement as they learn how to communicate better and meet each other’s needs.

  • Rather than a self-help book, this is a “together-help” book. Couples will together learn the theory behind this method to understand what is happening and why it works. Then the book will take you through a step-by-step tutorial, giving you questions to put the method into practice and apply it to your situation.

  • If you’ve ever experienced significant marital problems, you may have gone to a therapist to get to the root of your conflict and deal with it in a healthy way. But counseling isn’t always as helpful as you might imagine. Venting every week about how your spouse has wronged you can supercharge your anger and encourage you to see yourself as a victim. The method in this book does not include finding fault in each other and determining blame. Instead, it focuses on solutions.

  • Men are sometimes especially reluctant to seek professional marriage counseling. They might see it as a waste of time, or be embarrassed to be seen in a counselor’s office. This book is easy to read and teaches couples step-by-step how to strengthen their marriages in the privacy of their own homes with a minimal time commitment. Couples see results quickly and never have to step foot in a counselor’s office.

  • No. You will never have to look back and analyze past behaviors. This method is future-focused. You and your spouse will learn to adjust your lives to how you want them to be. You will realize that a lot of what change involves is rediscovering what you once already knew.

  • This book teaches you how to help your partner change by stressing their strengths.

    You will both learn how to ask the right questions to help him be able to change. He will go through the process and discover a real desire to be a good husband.

  • Yes. Every couple, no matter the ages, can benefit by focusing on small, easily-made adjustments that produce quick, significant results.

  • This book is a step-by-step guide for couples to improve their marriage in the privacy of their own home. The best thing you can do to help your daughter is to give her this book!

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